Friday, October 3, 2014

Introducing the newest love of my life

It's been a while since I've posted, but I have a good excuse. We have a little girl!! Meet my new little darling, Calista.

I had great intentions of announcing this sooner, but between staring at my little girl, and recovering from a c-section,

and my blood pressure randomly skyrocketing after she was born to the point that I was diagnosed with postpartum preeclampsia and almost had to be readmitted to the hospital, and trying to figure out how to balance caring for my newborn with giving my precious two-year-old son enough attention,

and nursing, and my OB suspecting that I might have a blood clot and sending me in for a CT scan (no blood clot - whew!), and staring at my little girl some more, and sleep deprivation, well... she's a month old now.

Can we please talk about how much I love these chubby cheeks and thighs? SO much!!
(I guess that was a pretty short conversation.)
Anyway, I have like five half-started posts that I might post someday, but here are some pictures that our friend Rebekah took of our new baby, our first baby, and my love and me.

(In case you want an adorable tutu like this, I bought it here.)

Ta da! My new and improved family!!

So... what's been going on in your life since I've been gone?

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Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Here's what I look like pregnant

Alternate title: I feel like I'm the size of a house.

So, I've been MIA for a myriad of reasons. Vacation, broken laptop, cleaning up more vomit, moving every bed in our house to a different floor, doing very important research into the most delicious brand of mint chocolate chip ice cream (Kroger store brand, for the record)... you know, important things. I actually do have some real live posts in the works, but while you wait for those, I thought I'd share some maternity photos that my good friend Rebekah took a few weeks ago. (These pictures were taken about four weeks ago... when I was feeling slightly less house-ish.)

This is my family. In case you couldn't guess.

I've carried both Lucas and this baby like I'm smuggling a watermelon under my shirt, which of course elicits a lot of ridiculous comments from complete strangers. Because everyone knows that women like nothing better than people she doesn't know making weird remarks about her body.

I have leggings on. I'm not randomly posting bottomless pictures of myself online. This isn't that kind of blog, people.

So far, I've been asked twice to please not give birth in a store, which is a little disappointing, because I had really hoped to bring my child into the world in the plumbing section of Lowe's.

This is my "no, I'm not going to give birth in a store" face.
When I was pregnant with Lucas, Rebekah took this picture of me:

I put Psalm 139:13-16 over it and gave a framed copy to my OB after Lucas was born, and she has it hanging in her office. I knew I wanted to do a similar picture with this pregnancy, but I hadn't given it much more thought than that. But then at one of my OB visits, the nurse pointed at the picture and said "So what are you going to do this time to top that picture?" I told her I wanted to do the same one facing the opposite direction, and she said "Well, I think you need to do it facing the opposite direction, but with Lucas kissing your belly." So, voila! Below is the product of my OB nurse Kara's genius idea, my friend Rebekah's awesome skills, and a toddler who was feeling cooperative.

Also, this:

Anyway, stay tuned for some more posts, but in the meantime, how cute is this child??

If you wanna click below, I won't say no. :)

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Wednesday, July 2, 2014

"Enjoy every moment."

I posted this on Facebook this evening:

Which led to me thinking for the umpteenth time about those women (with grown children) you occasionally run into in the grocery store who look at your child(ren) with a wistful smile and then tell you to "enjoy every moment."

For the record, I know how very, very fortunate I am that I get to be the mommy to my son and the little one we're expecting in September.

I am in a position to be able to choose to stay home with my children, and I know that there are other women out there who want to do the same and aren't able to; I realize what a privilege that is.

But I will tell you the truth: some parenting moments are more "have to" than "get to." Like cleaning up vomit. Or dealing with tantrums. Or waking up ridiculously early. Or changing poopy diapers. Overall, I wouldn't trade this job with anyone, but I'd be thrilled to have a pinch hitter or designated barf cleaner every now and again.

So when people tell you to enjoy every moment with your young children, just keep in mind that they themselves definitely didn't. They're looking back with rose-colored glasses at the parenting-of-young-kids experience as a whole. The cuddles, the wet kisses, the enthusiasm, the not being embarrassed to be seen with you in public. Those things are beautiful and wonderful and you should absolutely try to enjoy them as much as you can. But the moments (or days - or weeks) that you don't enjoy? Don't feel bad about them. That's not you being a bad mom; that's you being a human being. Being a good mom doesn't mean that you have to be filled with ecstasy by every single moment you spend with your child. And the more time you waste feeling guilty that you honestly just hate bath time, the less time you have to bask in the moments when your little boy pats your face and says "Mama best lady."

So if you're a little worn out by parenting today, give yourself a break, a pat on the back, and a piece of chocolate. And if you should happen to stumble across a company that has someone on call to clean up vomit 24 hours a day, could you please pass along the phone number? I'd really appreciate it.

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